Okay. So. The thing in the way of my happiness is me. If I am to gauge that I would experience a noticeably larger amount of happiness were I to follow up with my plans and attempt to struggle towards my dreams.
So, weight loss. Right now.
I hesitate to write this because I certainly wouldn’t want anyone writing about my status when I’m working on myself, but my sister is doing great with her low-carb. I don’t know how much or how little she’s lost, but she’s feeling good, she’s doing it and I can see a difference and I hardly pay any attention to anything. There is, not an insignificant amount of jealousy, in that I feel bloated and starving and exhausted all the time and she seems, from the outside, alright.
And I am making no money at all, (so it seems) and running out and buying fast food and eating out at places that aren’t really in my poor person budget, acting in old habits, airporting as I defined yesterday. Just thinking about the
I think, okay, vegetables. And my whole body gets pissed off. I get pissed off about everything that’s out of my control or seemingly so…my job situation, the fact that you can have one of these lingering powerful romantic interactions with someone and be strung along for weeks, my mom being sick and having to suffer to do what we can to destroy the sickness and getting messages from my vacationing sister about how I need to be reacting and behaving right now. And in that space, being able to have a sandwich or a piece of pizza or four or five peanut butter cups to quash hunger and everything else attached to hunger, is magic.
It feels like sidestepping the effects of time.
Yesterday’s truth: There is no day outside of the chain of days, time does not stop and restart, we don’t escape life to some other place. We just live in or out of fear.
This is the story of the fat people of the world. Sometimes. Some of them. Of me. The Brene Brown bonafide truth that you feel freaked out and vulnerable and you do whatever you feel is necessary to excise those feelings. Eating, when you’re scared of your own power, is this magical shield that is also a sword. It just shuts off the thoughts for a while. I feel like if I am vulnerable to my thoughts, I’ll lose ground, not gain it. Start panicking about driving which I’ve mostly avoided for the past three or four months. I’ll look around and see what I’m currently half-blind to – real unhappiness with the treatment I accept, real fear, real sense of time slipping out of my hands. It’s all the mental surgery I don’t get anesthesia for.
I’ve put forth this diatribe before. I’ve danced the dance, lit the candles, stood very still and waited for signs to emerge.
Yet. At the bottom line, it’s will I do it or won’t I do it? Right now, I don’t have the strength of will to curb things slightly. Right now, I want a big act or nothing.