We can at least get you loaded, we can at least get you started. We know that much. The grand and collected we.
I am so confused about what I experience with you, so I need some sort of break. I don’t know if you’re pulling away. I don’t know if you’re mad at me for the support and ties and the graces my life does have. I don’t know if you see this as some great kindness that protects me from a theft of my fate – I would have seen it that way once, but I am the only one who can It is not a punishment. It is the clearest path I can discern. Not to avoid breaking my heart, but to live a better life now and not once you come to whatever decision you are going to come to.
I hate that my kind, good heart represents some kind of too much or not enough or something I’ve yet to have clarified. So this is a time for the chaff to separate from the wheat. I refuse to chase someone who isn’t clear on what he wants from me and doesn’t want, right now, things I am finding really important like being undeniably important to someone.
This sense of peace that washes over me when I come to terms with the fact that I have no control over his heart, over his fears, over his pain and what he clings to or releases. A painful peace, a thought that has to be born new every time. It is only my journey I can possibly concern myself with.
I am thinking about the Decameron. About pilgrims, each with their own tale, walking together. About mistranslations and palimpsests and stories retold over and over again, each time with a focus on something slightly different so you don’t see the source at first. For Boccaccio, though, the women still had things to say. I am thinking about the Group and words used like single. He said he was single. He is single. We’ve never said that we feel he is not. I have never said I feel I am not. I am reading into shorter sentences and thumbs up and days without calls. I am inventing a frame story for all of this and ascribing low-esteem where I do not know that it exists. I am busy building big structures to blot out the sunrays of all of my fears. I am thinking about how I do feel and what this means.
I think it means I’m ready to give a damn about me. About the truths I know. About the universe I have built and the bed I choose to lay in. This also means I can be grateful and read The Decameron and Tom a Lincoln and watch a movie and make some toast and contemplate what more I can do to improve my outcomes. How asking for what I want never occurs to me. How appreciative I feel to be even at this point of pain. To think at all.
One more day of freedom. Very grateful, too, to have this page to write upon.